These 3 Silent Killers Could be DESTROYING Your Game
By: Mark Redman

Mark is the author of the excellent report "The Truth About College Game" as well as the bestselling "Conquer Your Campus Training Manual".

So awhile ago, when I was getting into this whole community, my friend/mentor Christian Hudson and I recorded a free interview (its no longer available, don't ask). We shot the shit for awhile, and also spent a lot of time talking about how to meet freshmen (check out my book if you want more on that). Anyway, I received so many awesome emails, but there was this one email that was just sitting in my inbox, without a reply, because to be honest, I didn’t know how to.

So I figured, rather than send something nasty to the guy (which is super low status and pretty much just a weak move all around) I will use his email to as a teaching tool, and use it so that we can all share in a valuable lesson.

I want you to read this first…and then I’ll explain what’s up..and how we can all learn from this guy’s negative attitude, and use it to improve our success with girls - on campus, and in life in general…

Great, here goes:

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From: “Tom” (name has been changed to protect privacy)

Subject: the podcast SUCKED ASS

Your podcast SUCKED. I couldn’t even listen to the
whole thing because it was so BORING. You and
Christian took way too much time chit chatting about
who texted who and why, how long you’ve known each
other, what great friends you are. I don’t care about
any of that…yet. I wan’t to know what you learned.
In the future, tell your story and get to the
point(s). Be efficient. We’re busy guys with busy
lives and don’t have time to wait for the good stuff.

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Ok. Done reading? Nice. Now let’s break down what’s going on here….

First off Tom, I want to thank you for taking the time out of your super busy day to get in touch with me. If you really are that busy, then I mean it - I appreciate that you took the time to listen to the podcast and to write not 1, but 3 emails to me.

Am I being sarcastic? Nope. Not at all. I think of all of you as my sort of friends and mentees, so there’s no ill-will here, and best of all, you gave me some solid material that I can use as a teaching piece for everyone else out there, and hopefully, something that will help you much.

There are 3 things key things about this email that we can springboard off of.

1.) NEGATIVITY

Whoooooaaa man. What’s going on here? Why are you hating? Just relax a little bit. People choose who they want to be around based on what energy they are getting. Like, a girl’s thought process is literally “Does Mark make me feel good or bad when I’m around him?…Good?…ok great, I’m going to walk over there and talk to him because it will feel good”. And you know what, this works the same with guys. Think about it in your own life, you likely move towards those people who make you feel good about yourself, and away from those who make you feel like garbage. There are 2 sides to every single situation and some people see the positive, some see the negative. This is a pretty general behavior pattern and it’s likely that if you see this in one of area of your life, it’s affecting another too. It’s a killer. So I’ll tell you this: be positive. All of you, there’s always a bright side to EVERYTHING. Trust me, I’ve been through a whole lot. There is a seed of goodness in every imaginable situation, no matter how negative. Is there a tiny seed of “good” in a free podcast between two friends talking about how to pull tail in college? I’d like to think so. And if you can’t stay positive about a gift that someone’s giving you for free, how are you likely to react when a girl shuts you down (it happens to all of us, man!). So positivity is important in terms of your own personal growth, and also in terms of those around you. So BE HAPPY man. Life is short!

Now, if I had to guess, I’d say that our main man right here was buggin’ out at me because of….

2.) A SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT

“Tom” felt that he was OWED something. And that we wern’t delivering. But it was his right, because he was born, and I was born, and because of that, I owe it to him to tell him how to get laid in college. Fair enough - I do feel responsible for helping guys out with this stuff, but geeeze….do i really OWE it to you? You didn’t pay anything for it… in fact, you didn’t even ask for it - we just released it, take it or leave it. Yes, my Conquer Your Campus Training Manual costs money, but it is SUPER-TIGHT. So come on man, you're getting pissy about a fucking free podcast.

Look man, and this goes for all of you, when you go out to a party or when you’re walking around campus or whatever, no one owes you ANYTHING. Think about it, when you walk into that party - you might get upset because no one is acting nice to you or paying attention to you or whatever. And this might make you upset. Well, this is happening because you didnt GIVE. You see, no one “owes” you anything until you give. And even after that, they still don’t owe you, it’s just kind of the way of the world. After you give…you get back. It’s how so many things in life work, it’s all about value exchange.

Now if you really want to drill into this deeper…
You owe the world something!

You owe the world this one simple thing: VALUE. The world is freakin’ beautiful man, everything about it and it’s your duty as an inhabitant of this planet to bring love, value, joy, laughter, good vibes, and positivity to it. Every morning that you wake up, the world is giving you LIFE, so come no, at least bring something in return.

When you do this, it delivers value back to you in SPADES. When you walk around like a beggar, tipping your cup asking for spare change, the world (and especially that cute girl that you’ve been thinking about all semester) walks by you…just like you’d likely walk past a dirty beggar on the street.

Ok, one last example here. Maybe it will help you contextualize this:
You don’t wanna be the dude who shows up at the frat party scavanging for the beer…you wanna be the dude who shows up with a case of awesome imported brews to share with everyone else so that THEY can have a kick ass time.

All making sense so far?? Cool. Now, I’m dishing out a lot here, and some of it is a bit more theoretical than what we’ve been talking about before, so take your time digesting it. Maybe come back to it and reread it tomorrow to make sure it all soaks in.

Lastly, I want to talk about the third thing that might be killing your game, that’s definitely hurting this guy…

3.) NOT BEING ABLE TO JUST CHILL AND APPRECIATE A GOOD TIME FOR WHAT IT IS (AKA ATTACHMENT TO OUTCOME)

The first half of the podcast was just me and Christian kicking it and enjoying the fuck out of reminiscing about the good old days. I can tell you this - i don’t think I’ve ever laughed harder than after that little “porking” thing we talked about.

Why was it in there?

Well, I’ll be honest. I wanted you guys to feel like you had a friend. Because, the truth is, you do. I’ve been there before. Chances are, if you’ve thought it, or you’ve seen it, I have too. I also remember how tough it was to wake up every morning and feel like everyone else around me was living life, while i struggled my ass off just to make ZERO progress. So I wanted you to hear my story, as an inspiration, for something that you could draw upon as a source of strength. Because look, by the end of college I was standing atop the proverbial “mountain” and while I refuse to feel sorry for myself, it was much more fun at the top.

Now, that was just a tangent, the real point of this 3rd factor is this: When you’re chilling you need to just…chill. Christian and I were just kicking it old school on his couch in his loft. Nothing more, nothing less. And most of your college experience will mirror this. We didn’t have any super logical-specific outcome. We just wanted to have fun.

If everyone around you is just chilling and having fun, and you are internally bitching about needing to get laid and trying to maneuver your way to getting laid, people will sense it, and you will get a bad outcome. Not to mention, you will never take the time to truly enjoy college, while you still can.

Seriously, imagine you’re at a barbecue and everyone is drinking bud light and eating burgers - you know, just having a good time. And you’re going from “set” to “set” trying to get a logical reaction out of girls so that you can advance your agenda toward an f-close.

WHOOAAA dude. Do you notice a disconnect here?

Now, the fact that this won’t get good results is secondary to the fact that you are missing out on life by thinking like this. College is supposesd to be, above all else, FUN. So just relax. Chill out. Enjoy. Take a deep breath.

Feel the grass beneath your feet. The awesome energy. Enjoy the cheesy ass “Lil John” that might be playing on some dude’s ipod from the window sill of his room and just RELAX. And realize that college is short and sweet. You don’t want to miss out on it because you were trying to advance from A2 to A3 without triggering A.S.D.

Wow. That took wayyy longer to describe then I had planned on. Gotta run.

And “Tom”, if you’re reading this, please, take this stuff to heart and I promise man..you’ll get what you’re looking for. Same goes for everyone whose reading this right now - this is the stuff that I wished someone would have told me during orientation my freshman year.

And you know, speaking of things I wish someone had told me my freshman year, I've got a free report called The Truth About College Game and a book that is so money called the Conquer Your Campus Training Manual.

Ok, I’m Outtie

Mark


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